12/30/2023 0 Comments Seeya in the funny pages![]() Oftentimes, whether reasonable or not, suicide survivors often wonder “If my loved one died by suicide, did they ever really love me?” It’s a question that gets to the roots and the motivations of suicide in general. There is one question in the “life after your loved one” that is particularly haunting. And one of the worst ramifications of a suicide involves the many unanswered (and sometimes unanswerable) questions it creates in the lives of those left behind. One thing that we all have in common as survivors of suicide loss, however, is dealing with questions. There’s no perfect way to do this because each person who suffers is imperfect in their own way. There’s no manual or “right way” to grieve. The experience of each survivor of suicide is entirely different, and we all struggle with different feelings at different seasons. Some of these books resonate really deeply with me, but others describe scenarios that I’m truly unfamiliar with. Lately, I’ve been reading and revisiting a number of different books and articles written by survivors of suicide. It’s true, my life after Dad’s death has been vastly more complicated, but the answers to those complicated questions can sometimes be beautifully, wonderfully simple. Isn’t it funny how we often come back to those simple little lessons as we age to deal with some of life’s most complex issues? ![]() ![]() That book didn’t just tell me what love was-it taught me how to love other people. That book put hands and feet on love for me. I loved that book because it took a complex and nebulous idea, like love, and made it easy for me to see and understand. Each page features a new example: “Love is walking hand in hand,” “Love is having a special song,” “Love is messing up someone’s hair,” “Love is wishing you had nerve enough to go over and talk with that little girl with the red hair,” “Love is letting him win even though you know you could slaughter him” (There’s more awesome gems from this book at ). Written by the famous illustrator Charles Schulz, the book features the Peanuts gang (Charlie Brown and Snoopy and all your other favorites) with simple but practical examples of what love can look like in our everyday lives. When I was a kid, one of my favorite books was one that my Mom bought for me at a library book sale called “ Love Is Walking Hand in Hand.” The 1965 book is about as simple as you can get. The tiniest, simplest books are often the best books.
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